by | Jan 24, 2013 | Uncategorized

CONFLICT-RESOLUTION-HEADINGSome of you who follow this blog live here in Raleigh and are part of the NRCC community. For you, for eight Wednesday evenings this summer, we’ll be revisiting conflict resolution. It’s one of the more enjoyable things we do together. We learn together, we laugh at ourselves, and we internalize a technique that helps us get to the bottom of the really intractable conflicts in our lives.
We learn that 95% of all conflicts can be resolved by healthy, reasonable people having healthy, reasonable discussions. When we put our best effort into understanding one another’s perspectives, we can usually negotiate a reasonable compromise that gives everybody enough of what they want to settle things down.
But then there are the other 5%.
Often, the intrinsic content of the 5% issues are not qualitatively different from the 95%. However, unlike the 95% they touch some reactionary part of our hearts that makes healthy, reasonable discussion virtually impossible. That’s when the technique becomes especially necessary. It gives us guard rails to keep us from falling over the emotional abyss.
If you’re in town, come on out this summer.
framing god as one with everything
But that’s not the point for this series of blog posts. Conflict resolution is another in a series of shifts that happen when “non-duality” gets worked out in daily life. Last fall, we did a series of posts challenging our “two-ness” view of reality, and taking seriously, the idea that everything is connected (oneness).  We talked about how quantum physics is reshaping our most fundamental assumptions about reality, and how this seismic shift moves us closer and closer to how our Christian mystics and contemplatives talked about reality.
Just before the holiday break, we were talking about how “oneness vs. two-ness” changes the way we live. When I no longer assume that I am a “one,” you are a different “one,” and God as yet another “one…” we approach everyday issues in very different ways.
If we take seriously that everything is connected, we come to our lives with very different instincts. We combat human trafficking differently. We talk to little girls diagnosed w/ Crones Disease differently, and so forth.
It also changes how we approach the intractable relational conflicts that so plague our lives.
In this series of posts, that will be our focus. Follow along. Tell me what you think.

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