When Religion Gets Sexuality Right…
We have a lot to offer. Our ancient sexual wisdom speaks to a healthy and helpful pacing for sexual relationships.
In these three episodes, we look at the research of zoologist and anthropologist, Desmond Morris. He has studied the psychological and emotional processes necessary to form stable sexual bonds.
Which, it turns out, take some time.
This is part 1 of 3.
Have a listen,
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Interesting. A little exhausting. Too much intellect required. Lol! But I’ll see where you going on this.
Never had any sex ed as such. I think I missed out as a result. I might have done better had there been some, but on the other hand I might not have. What I did pick up sub-consciously was not positive or encouraging, but repressive or oppressive and negative. I don’t think that is healthy. So if there had been some overt ed it might have reinforced a negative, so perhaps it was good there was none.
My thinking is that Christian morality has generally not cut it. It has resulted in hindrance to healthy development and that in turn has resulted in rebellion and unhealthy development of relationship. So if you have a healthier morality (which it seems you might when I hear you talk of the negativity of rules – how we do like rules!)then I think this could be helpful, which is why I want to listen to more, even though it’s very intellectual so far.
Do you think our culture’s unwillingness to work for the long type of love you described has anything to do with the “internet thinking?” Whenever I see things where people are impatient and wants thing now now now I can’t help but think at least a little of that has to do with what was talked about in The Shallows. When my kids take two minutes to put on their shoes, I have to remind myself not to rush them or just do it myself, because them focusing on a task like that is a very important tool that they will use for the rest of their lives.
I also find it very interesting that the research you described is usually only disputed by the church. Because when you think about it, he’s making a case for the type of love that the church is trying to instill for long lasting relationships. Church and science, what a team!