Sexuality is Deep. Really Deep!
As a culture, we tend to reduce our most primal drive to connect and to create — we tend to reduce it to push-up-bra eroticism, and then use it to sell cars.
Not the best way to experience our deepest humanity.
How are we not leading with this
…when we teach our young people about their sexual energies?
Have a listen,
Doug
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This podcast served for me as part of a crucial introduction to the topic of sexuality. Yet, there was one portion of that introduction that was missing (perhaps you want to introduce it later), and that is the relationships between sexuality and love. On the one hand our sexual drives are a strong factor in creating the environment for the formation of a love relationship. They also come with emotional consequences that are likely not understood by teens being led by their sexual drives. Finally, there is the understanding that love is primarily about giving, while sexual drives are primarily about having our own needs met. It seems to me that this context setting is critical. Without it, the story of the man “getting love in all the wrong places” is likely to not be understood by the teen hearing it.
I had a similar thought. How do we put what you’ve said here into teen speak and into action words that young people can hear? Like you mentioned in the previous episode, as parents, we really don’t want to get it wrong. We agree – not talking about stuff is getting it wrong. But when talking to a young person about the aliveness of sexuality or the bigness of it or equating it to spirituality (all good – all wonderful – and I don’t disagree) we have to be careful to also hand them some limits and expectations and also maybe a little healthy fear. (Some shocking pictures of STDs ought to do the trick!) 🙂
Great series! Thes damn Ad men, smh. Never understood why people didn’t like the Mad men until I heard one of your talks years ago. My heart does go out to the Ad men though. Think how hard it is to Sell More Selling More!
Doug –
I found the part interesting about how our culture teaches boys to make love to a man with male instincts, just in a woman’s body. To reiterate my comment on the previous podcast, I am looking forward to those intimate moments when my children come to me asking for advice on topics such as sex. I’ve never really thought it would be difficult (this could of course change) and/or stressful finding what to say. I’m not saying that it won’t be stressful thinking about them doing their own thing, but rather the conversation and talking about how they feel about a subject will be moments that I enjoy.