Sexuality Is Progressive — Not Static
If we’re paying attention, our sexuality carries us along on a journey. Eroticism is only the first stop (a really nice one, but only the first).
Margaret Meade suggested that all women need three husbands. The first for great sex, the second for stability as we raise children, and the third for joyous companionship.
The ancient Greeks made a similar suggestion. They taught us several stages through which our love journey grows, and suggested that if we pay attention to developmental sexuality, we could enjoy those three marriages — with the same person.
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Doug
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I love what you have said here. I love the insights that you have provided. You have given words to a process that those of us happily married 30 or more years have understood without necessarily having the language to express what is going on. I have a concern with what hasn’t been said, and about material that has not been covered that I am hoping will come out in later pod-casts. There is almost an unspoken statement of condemnation toward those whose marriages have not survived the 7 year itch, or the 10 or 20 or 25 year milestones. In many cases better understanding and willingness to work on the marriages and on themselves could save those marriages. For others, however, ending the marriage is the right choice for one or both partners. I am hoping that you will be covering some of the valid reasons for a marriage breaking up, and even more importantly, what it takes to recognize some of those problems before allowing eros love to move the relationship to marriage. If we are educating our teens, bringing awareness to the factors that may ultimately cause a marriage to fail is an important part of their education. Including a timeframe necessary to become aware of some of these factors is also critical.
valid reasons for ending a marriage.
i’ll put it on the list for future podcasts.
thanks
d.
Doug –
“Romantic love is a means to an end, not the end itself” – I like that quote. “Marriage for life” was created when life expectancy was 40 years old…interesting. A few questions:
-Does not living with your biological parents affect the process of learning “love?”
-How do you know when you are in the different versions of love?
what do you think folks? matt asks a couple of good questions.