Timing and Chastity (1 of 2)

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Chastity is kind of a joke

Chastity belts…
Up-tight prudes…

But chastity used to be a virtue. It used to have more to do with good timing than suppressing sexual pleasure. If we dig past the up-tight parts, maybe we can unearth the helpful wisdom the word once carried.

This is part 1 of 2.
Have a listen,




  1. Doug, I loved all that you covered. It seems like critical preliminaries or background for the real discussion. I’m not sure what is coming in part 2. I am hoping it goes beyond the philosophy around which we make decisions, and includes bases for developing answers to practical questions like how far to go, at what stage of the relationship, at what age, etc.

  2. Since we as people don’t follow our natural biological time frame of getting married (and procreating, having sex). We instead wait an additional 10-20 years compared to that of our ancestors. My question is ‘What would one have us do with our sexual needs, energy’s, desires for that extra 10-20 year delay contrary to our biology?’

    • good question, “pnbind.”
      it’s not really the point i’m addressing in this episode, but i’m writing part 3 right now, and it is one of the practical questions we have to address (and will there).

      the point of this episode is this…
      getting ready for sexual relationships takes time, energy, and internal processing. the very reasons we delay marriage in our society, argues for giving even closer attention to the psycho-emotional processes laid out in this episode (and the next one).

      how we deal with our biology is best discussed in the context of the well-being of our hearts and minds. typically, we give attention to the former, not as much to the latter. it could be argued, that the demands of our society require we give even more time to these psycho-emotional processes.

      again, we’ll talk about your question directly in part 3.

  3. Doug – do you have the link for the podcast you mentioned with the original people involved in the feminist movement?