Podcast

Pornography: Is It Really a Problem? (part 1)

Posted by on Aug 17, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 0 comments

What Is a Problem? What Isn’t? Conversations about porn are often laced with hurt feelings — feelings of inadequacy, being uncherished. Sometimes they come with recrimination and blame. And when porn conversations go badly, it’s often because our starting point is affected by the dirty-sex instincts in history. In these two episodes, we’ll explore the question: “what really isn’t a problem with porn, and what is?” This is episode 1 of 2. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2....

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Masturbation: A Handy Talk with the Kids

Posted by on Aug 10, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 0 comments

  “It’ll Make You Blind.” “It’ll Grow Hair on Your Hands” (and other craziness) The starting place for a talk about masturbation is affirming the goodness of sexual hunger and curiosity. However, many grew up with anything but that! The message many grew up with about sex in general, and in particular about exploring and giving our bodies pleasure were strained, or tainted with dirty sex instincts. Without a shared framework, it can be hard to frame this conversation well. But we can do it. Have a...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 3)

Posted by on Aug 3, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 0 comments

Waiting is Hard.  Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 3 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 2)

Posted by on Jul 27, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 2 comments

Waiting is Hard. Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 2 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 1)

Posted by on Jul 20, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 1)

Waiting is Hard. Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 1 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the...

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Having the Sex Talk . . . Before Things Get Hairy

Posted by on Jul 13, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Having the Sex Talk . . . Before Things Get Hairy

Have It Early.  Have It Often. For a lot of reasons, sex talks with our kids are tough to have. In this episode we’ll try to make the conversations about as normal as talking to our young people about food. Some tips. Some pointers. A few stories. Have a listen, Doug   1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new episodes:      Podcast: Play in new window |...

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Part 3: Getting Practical About Sex-Ed

Posted by on Jul 6, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 1 comment

Getting Ready for Sex Talks with Our Young People Two things… First, people screw up their lives with sex all the time. It’s such a deep part of our lives, when we create pain there, it goes deeply! Second, we love our kids more than life itself. And if trends continue, they’ll be jumping right in line for the pain of sexual screw-ups… Unless we do better with sex education. We’re under the illusion that if we can convince them to use condoms to prevent pregnancy and STDs, we’ve prepared them. We...

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Chastity and Timing (2 of 2)

Posted by on Jun 29, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 1 comment

Chastity is kind of a joke Chastity belts… Up-tight prudes… But chastity used to be a virtue. It used to have more to do with good timing than suppressing sexual pleasure. If we dig past the up-tight parts, maybe we can unearth the helpful wisdom the word once carried. This is part 2 of 2. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new episodes:      Podcast: Play in new window |...

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Timing and Chastity (1 of 2)

Posted by on Jun 22, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 4 comments

Chastity is kind of a joke Chastity belts… Up-tight prudes… But chastity used to be a virtue. It used to have more to do with good timing than suppressing sexual pleasure. If we dig past the up-tight parts, maybe we can unearth the helpful wisdom the word once carried. This is part 1 of 2. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new episodes:      Podcast: Play in new window |...

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A Slow Hand, An Easy Touch (3 of 3)

Posted by on Jun 15, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 4 comments

When Religion Gets Sexuality Right… We have a lot to offer. Our ancient sexual wisdom speaks to a healthy and helpful pacing for sexual relationships. In these three episodes, we look at the research of zoologist and anthropologist, Desmond Morris. He has studied the psychological and emotional processes necessary to form stable sexual bonds. Which, it turns out, take some time. This is part 3 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new episodes:      Podcast: Play in new window |...

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