Posts by Doug

Pornography: Is It Really a Problem? (part 1)

Posted by on Aug 17, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Pornography: Is It Really a Problem? (part 1)

What Is a Problem? What Isn’t? Conversations about porn are often laced with hurt feelings — feelings of inadequacy, being uncherished. Sometimes they come with recrimination and blame. And when porn conversations go badly, it’s often because our starting point is affected by the dirty-sex instincts in history. In these two episodes, we’ll explore the question: “what really isn’t a problem with porn, and what is?” This is episode 1 of 2. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new episodes:     ...

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Masturbation: A Handy Talk with the Kids

Posted by on Aug 10, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Masturbation: A Handy Talk with the Kids

  “It’ll Make You Blind.” “It’ll Grow Hair on Your Hands” (and other craziness) The starting place for a talk about masturbation is affirming the goodness of sexual hunger and curiosity. However, many grew up with anything but that! The message many grew up with about sex in general, and in particular about exploring and giving our bodies pleasure were strained, or tainted with dirty sex instincts. Without a shared framework, it can be hard to frame this conversation well. But we can do it. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 3)

Posted by on Aug 3, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 3)

Waiting is Hard.  Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 3 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 2)

Posted by on Jul 27, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | 2 comments

Waiting is Hard. Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 2 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new...

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Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 1)

Posted by on Jul 20, 2017 in Podcast: Sex Education | Comments Off on Waiting for Sex . . . And Feeling Blue (part 1)

Waiting is Hard. Waiting for Sex . . . Harder! Timing sexual experience well is developmentally important. In earlier episodes we’ve explored how long it takes for important psychological and emotional processes to unfold, to form healthy sexual bonds. But since young people come to sexual maturity in their early teens, and since few have undergone those processes by then… “Timing” is often a code word for “waiting.” Bummer. How do we talk to our kids about that? This is part 1 of 3. Have a listen, Doug 1. Subscribe to the podcast:  click HERE 2. Get an email notice for new...

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